When we turned 50, we realized that we had come to a crossroads. We had been living our lives according to a general model for what women do in life, but at this age we realized that there were no longer any models, no road maps as it were, for what might lie in store in our futures. Not only that, we realized that entry into this stage of life, for women particularly, brings about a lot of changes, many of them unwelcome. Some of these can be subtle and insidious. Almost all of the women we speak with register the same complaint, a feeling of invisibility. It is a feeling of irrelevance in a world focused on the young. Women over 50 are finding themselves asking what now, what next? And they are asking this question with the prospect of a life of much greater longevity than women in the past. What to do with it?
The answer, of course, will be different for every woman. But in our more than 50 combined years as psychotherapists, we have come to learn that there is one thing that is common to all older women. They have lived. There have been many twists and turns in their stories, and their stories need to be told. And women want to tell their stories.
These stories are the creations of each individual woman, the narratives by which they have lived their lives. Every one of us is both narrator and protagonist of our own story. We guide ourselves, wittingly or not, through each scene and chapter. And where the story goes next is in the hands of each of us.
All women who have lived, who have many years of tales and yarns, twists and turns, want to tell their story. Bits and pieces come flying out all the time, but they are often unheard and get scattered into the ether.
We invite you to tell your story to us.
We will listen.
We may want to share it with others, and offer you a platform via our weekly email or podcast.